August 15, 2011

Growing Up Static


Four bullet-proof topics sure to get my blood boiling even while living in an Abyss of Positivity: School Policy, Parenting, Religion & E-Readers.

Thanks to this article on a few “stressed schools” cutting out recess programs I am slowly climbing out of said Abyss. What is this world coming to? I’ll give you the answer…

The world is becoming a standardized test score. It’s becoming percentages. It’s becoming bar graphs and learning curves.

It’s becoming really frigging aggravating.

I’m not going to get into the illogical reasoning behind eliminating or decreasing recess in elementary schools. I’d be here all day. What I am going to do is harken back to a conversation about a similar issue I had with my mother about 10 years ago.

Around that time I had been working a lot with kids. I had begun to notice a pattern developing amongst, at least to me, an alarming number of families.

It was a pattern that scared me.

Parents were obsessively taking their kids to get extra tutoring after school or after camp.

The tutor service, SCORE, became so damn commonplace to these kids it bordered on abuse...at least in my eyes. I couldn’t help but feel bad for them. They seemingly never got to be kids even though most seemed to think it was normal.

However, their parents were creating robots. They were obsessed with their academic status and achievements in elementary school. Guaranteed they are the same type of parents who put the little green men in their front yard.

It pissed me off.

Back to my mother, I did something I rarely ever did back then and revealed a very real fear of mine to her. I told her I was afraid of raising a child in this ultra-competitive academic age because I simply do not agree with it. How was I supposed to raise my child without SCORE when all the other kids were?

Would it be unfair to my child? Would raising my future child to appreciate “being a child” and learn the “old fashioned way” be considered bad-parenting?

I’d rather pay $200 a month and take my kid out’ve school and go to a baseball game or go camping or do something interesting then pay for extra tutoring. And I got news for ya’, our kids are going to be applying to the same damn colleges anyway in 10 years. And another thing, this just in, the college you go to and the job you get as a result means less than what your guidance counselor tells you.

My mother agreed with my fear. She agreed it would be difficult to maintain your standards and said it was indeed pretty scary. It was a question without a real answer and it still is.

Kids are growing up in front of computers at home, in school, in the car and in the grocery store so mommy doesn’t have to be a mommy. They are on computer overload.

You know the saying, too much of a good thing?

They’re growing up lazy. They’re growing up uncreative. They’re growing up with no imagination. They’re growing up static.

Parents and school systems are robbing their children of childhood.

Now who’s being unfair?

5 comments:

Kevin said...

But, but, but, it's too dangerous to let our little cherubs play in the street today. No, we must keep an eye on them every minute of the day. But, you know, not actual spend all that time "with them". That's why we like SCORE, it's like hiring a babysitter whom we can trust not to just feed the kids ice cream when we aren't looking. {sarcasm}

stine413 said...

You said it Greco... Kids aren't allowed to be kids because parents don't want them to go out, get dirty and do things we did as kids. But, as a parent, break the new "rules" and do your own thing... Maybe others will see that the old way is so much better. I think in many ways we all yearn for that. I for one love it when my kids are covered in mud from head to toe and a little scraped up... To me, that means they had a good day...

Link said...

Right on Steiner!! Let them get dirty!! Create your own path Greco!! Your kids will be the coolest ones around!!

Anonymous said...

Put your kid in an uncomfortable situation where they are forced to survive and find a way "out".....take your kid to a mountain when they are afraid of heights and tell them to climb it.....bring them to a pool and tell the to swim when they're scared of water...help them get comfortable in the uncomfortable....be patient with them....love them and then support them when they fall and tell them its ok to fall but they have to get back up....LOVE THEM AS HARD AS YOU CAN AND TELL THEM FEAR IS A REAL THING BUT THEY HAVE TO FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY!!!!!!!

ta79 said...

Yes! Sir Ken Robinson has a lot to say on this topic. :)